Wednesday, March 11, 2026

Kindness is key

 


The cards  --
(some of the cards
I've written every night
for 1460 days --
which Steven has saved.)

Alyson Stanfield says talking about being busy is not important, and
I agree, but sometimes the reality is work takes up a huge percentage
of our time.  And that's a good thing.  Today I am still working on my
big painting, and it is not ready for me to show you.  So talking to
some of the kindest people I know got me thinking about kindness.

Scrolling through my blog I found a former post that is still significant
 now. I am still writing these cards, and Steven still wants me to
continue.  So I do.  Why?  I love the man.

"Kindness hit me as a principal requirement in my life when I
experienced such high levels of kindness at the 2009, and 2015 
Florence Biennales. I've been lucky to be treated kindly for most of my
life, but people at the Biennale, as one of my friends described
it, raised the bar. They did everything they could to help
each other, and life long connections happened.  We all still care
about the people we met there.

So I wondered -- what are your kindness practices? One of mine
is to write a note for my husband every night to leave in our middle
bedroom where my husband gets ready for work in the morning. 
Because I was a night teacher for almost a decade, I am in the
habit of going to bed much later than my husband, and he gets
up much earlier than I do.

This practice started in January 2022, when both of our cats
-- the 14 year old Tortie point Siamese, Fiona, (who has since
died sadly) and the three month old Tortie point Siamese kitten,
Monet, stopped eating. The kitten had gastroenteritis, and the
older cat had a gum infection.

I started writing the notes to let Steven know whether or not
they'd eaten their night snack, and then as they got better, I'd
write about what happened in the day, and thank him for all
of the nice things he'd done for me.  And guess what happened?
He didn't want me to stop -- so I haven't. And he has saved every
one of these notes that I write on cards that feature my art.

What are some of the things you do to add more kindness
 to your life?"

Have a loving your life day!

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I paint and draw on commission and for shows. To commission a portrait, or purchase one of my paintings please contact me at: barbara.muir@sympatico.ca
A major highlight in my career? Drawing Oprah Winfrey live via Skype for her show "Where in the Skype are you? Galleries: Studio Vogue Gallery, Toronto, Canada. The Amsterdam Whitney Gallery, New York City. Gallery at the Porch Door, Kingston, Canada. Your positive comments on this blog mean the world to me. I'd love to hear from you!